Roberto was Paul’s boyfriend for more than 2 years.  They never lived together, but saw each other almost every day.  At first, I was surprised that Paul moved in with me instead of Roberto, but when I got to know Roberto better I understood why.  In general, Roberto was a very sweet and hot-looking Korean guy who, believe it or not, came from a very conservative and religious home.  That is why he was totally fucked up.  I am sure that to this day, as an openly gay man, he still feels guilt and shame for the way he is.  Once he told me that he thought God made him gay as a punishment for the fact that his father beat his mother occasionally when Roberto was little.  But nobody ever talked about that in his family, as though it were some sort of illusion.  His parents still live in Korea; he was sent to California to live with his uncle to get a better education.  I am absolutely sure his parents still do not know that he is gay. Roberto is not his real name; he adopted it in college.

Over the last year it was a very rocky relationship.  Paul and Roberto have a lot in common.  They are both very spiritual and both active Buddhists.  They travel a lot together, and the three of us attend almost all modern ballet performances in LA.

But recently, Paul shared with me that he thinks Roberto is losing interest in him.  Their sexual relations are starting to go down the tubes.  Roberto claims that he is not into sex right now.  Maybe it was true, maybe not.  Paul thinks Roberto started losing interest in him, not just in sex; he recently noticed that Roberto was hooked on porn.  Paul found some photos on Roberto’s computer and was concerned about that.

Nevertheless, Paul decided to end the relationship.